Am I or Am I Not?

This is a question many adolescents find themselves pondering on. Some may never admit it while others beat themselves into denial. In a society like ours, the mere idea of confusion may lead to them being social outcast or introduced to hate. We are not taught about the hormonal changes young teenagers experience, which allows them to be confused about their sexuality, and being indoctrinated into believing that all beings are by default, heterosexuals, one can imagine the heights of frustration and disgust one feels knowing that he’s having abominable feelings, sensations that are beyond his control. 

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The importance of having someone to talk to during this phase in their lives cannot be more emphasised. It’s a necessity. Understandably going through a period where you’re uncertain of what you are can take a toll on a person, mentally and emotionally. It’s even more intense not having anyone to speak to about what you’re going through. It becomes even more depressing when you find a confidante and it’s someone whose mind is closed, someone who ridicules you first then sends you to church afterwards or someone who just doesn’t understand and tells their friends, who also don’t understand. Let us understand and seek to help, let us embrace diversity and to accept individuals for who they are.

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Reflecting on the title of this blog, if you are then you are. You should appreciate and accept it. Constant denial may lead to you hurting yourself and others around you. If you have these feelings now, chances are, they will never change. Beyond popular belief, humans are not heterosexuals by default, we only live in a society that chooses to believe that. We are all born with the innate trait of attraction, who we are attracted to is beyond our control. So never blame yourself.

 Heres a site that gives more information on teenagers experiencing sexual confusions, have a read. http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/sexual_orientation.html#

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